01/08/17 – A Biblical Handbook for Dating

The Song of Solomon 1:7-17 ESV
7 Tell me, you whom my soul loves,where you pasture your flock,where you make it lie down at noon;for why should I be like one who veils herselfbeside the flocks of your companions? 8 If you do not know,O most beautiful among women,follow in the tracks of the flock,and pasture your young goatsbeside the shepherds’ tents. 9 I compare you, my love,to a mare among Pharaoh’s chariots. 10 Your cheeks are lovely with ornaments,your neck with strings of jewels. 11 We will make for you ornaments of gold,studded with silver. 12 While the king was on his couch,my nard gave forth its fragrance. 13 My beloved is to me a sachet of myrrhthat lies between my breasts. 14 My beloved is to me a cluster of henna blossomsin the vineyards of Engedi. 15 Behold, you are beautiful, my love;behold, you are beautiful;your eyes are doves. 16 Behold, you are beautiful, my beloved, truly delightful.Our couch is green; 17 the beams of our house are cedar;our rafters are pine.

The Song of Solomon 2:1-7 ESV
1 I am a rose of Sharon,a lily of the valleys. 2 As a lily among brambles,so is my love among the young women. 3 As an apple tree among the trees of the forest,so is my beloved among the young men.With great delight I sat in his shadow,and his fruit was sweet to my taste. 4 He brought me to the banqueting house,and his banner over me was love. 5 Sustain me with raisins;refresh me with apples,for I am sick with love. 6 His left hand is under my head,and his right hand embraces me! 7 I adjure you, O daughters of Jerusalem,by the gazelles or the does of the field,that you not stir up or awaken love until it pleases.

A.Dating is not the same as hooking up.
B.Hooking up is about a mutual interest in your body. Dating is about having a mutual interest in you.
C.Hooking up is about what I can get. Dating requires clarity about intentions and what they hope to both give and gain.
D.What others say, especially your parents and godly friends, matters.

A.Never date someone who is not determined to protect your purity.
B.Purity is easier to maintain when there is the reasonable public assumption of a future together.

1.Date to evaluate.
2.Date for a mate.
3. Wait to date until:
•You are ready to choose someone to marry.
•You have convictions you will not compromise.
•You know the kind of person you want to marry and won’t settle for less.
•You are prepared to be single for life before you settle for a second-rate spouse.
•You are committed to being the kind of person you would like to marry.