10/25/15 – Winning Husbands Without Words

1 Peter 3:1-6 ESV

Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct. Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. For this is how the holy women who hoped in God used to adorn themselves, by submitting to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are her children, if you do good and do not fear anything that is frightening.

I. FALSE GOSPEL OF FEMINISM (1)
A. Feminism is a belief system with its own gospel.
B. Bible affirms the value, worth, and equality of women with men throughout its pages.
C. Bible presents equality between sexes in a complementary way rather than a competitive way though.
D. Feminism actually hurts the cause of femininity by trying to herd all women into sameness.

II. BEING LIKE JESUS (1-2)
A. Submitting does not make a woman a doormat but like Jesus if her motivation matches His
B. A submissive woman will have more impact on her husband, lost or not, than a holy but nagging one.

III. WHAT YOUR HUSBAND REALLY WANTS (3-4)
A. Be a lady of the Lord not a lady of the night.
B. Follow your husbands lead willingly and freely.
C. Not only is that what your husband wants but God finds it stunning.

IV. UGLY DUCKLING TO RUNWAY MODEL
A. We are all born with an ugly duckling on the inside who shows the scars of our sin.
B. In Gospel, JC flips the script and becomes ugly to win us and to make us beautiful by His love.

V. A SISTERHOOD OF SUBMISSION (5-6)
A. Bible is full of ladies who submitted to their husbands because they trusted God to take care of them.
B. Submission to your husband comes not from trusting your husband’s wisdom more but the power of God more.

APPLICATION
1. Make the sovereignty of God the pillow you lay your head on at night
2. What’s best for Jesus over what I want for myself
3. Change does not come from external coercion but internal choice.